I have decided that writing is a kind of therapy. I put myself in another person’s shoes and it is easier to feel with them often times than to deal with my own feelings. This, in turn, helps me to make contact with my own feelings. I seldom cry, but I have on several occasions, written a passage that brought tears to my eyes. This is a sort of catharsis for the emotionally shut down.
Counselors often recommend journaling for their patients, but I think this is as good of a method of getting at what is in us as anything else, because I have found that when I am missing my wife, I write love into the story. When I am angry, I write a scene where someone gets angry. When I am sad, I write a sad scene, and this gets the juices flowing the way they should. It makes me more alive. So next time you don’t know what you feel, try writing a short story and see what comes up.